Saturday, February 23

Family Tree Research

Hi All, yes i know its been a while, but i have been a little busy of late.. with school, work and also school Hols this week.. Yesterday I had a day to myself. that's not to rare on a Friday but it was a school holiday and that is rare.. So i decided to do some research into my family tree, and this involved me going to a records office in the next county, so was about an hours drive away.. I am at the moment doing research into my dads parents side of the family, both Maternal (mums side) and Paternal (dads side) of his family,, i do have a fair bit of research on his dads mums (my grandad's mums side) so i was continuing on the male side the paternal side, my dads dad.. (My granddad's dad) i did know a little bit about him some time again after some research i had done years ago, but then i came to a stumbling block called Time Closure.. some records that are sent to the records office are not allowed to be viewed for 75 to 100 years from a certain date.. so i had to be patient and just carried on with other members of the family tree, I have done my kids dads side (as he was my partner for 26 years and did a lot of it for him and for my kids as they have his name) then i started my side, first i did my mums, which i found living cousins, that she never knew she had, plus places relatives lived ect but what i do find interest is my dads side, i have a connection, it's My family name, i loved my grandad and sense he is with me now even though his been dead some 32 years, but i feel he has looked after me and my family so i wanted to find his parents for him, now i found his mums grave and place of residence 2 years ago, i have her final resting place.. ect, but i was desperate to find where her husband was buried, my paternal gt granddad.. I have almost got there,, i know about his working life, and about his illness and about his death, i know what church he is buried at but at what plot i have no idea until i contact the right people,, may need the records office again or the church records them selves.. but time ran out and normal day resumed... Well when i got to the records office i had to provide evidence of who i was, and was given a readers record card.. this lasts 4 years so i can go to any records office and look at records,, and boy i have a lot to look for so will need it.. once booked it i was given some help in where and what to find what i needed, so first port of call was the work my gt granddad did, and he was a police Constable and i already knew that, but to actually have a book in front of me with his Job application and his work and pay history was kind of unreal.. the emotions that went through me where OMG poor man,, and wow he really did exist, he was a real person.. but his work life was vary sad, which made me sad.. my great granddad never made it about constable level 3 the basic level well he did make 1 several times but then got demoted again, and this was because he was an alcoholic, drunk on duty and this went on for 27 years.. he got fined, demoted, raised and promoted only to be demoted and find, he was also moved from village to village but there was always a pub and always drunk,... he was forced into retirement on ill health, there is was talk of dementia, paralysis, and mental illness.. I have taken photos off all i saw as they were too big for photo copies. but i am not allowed to put them on here for you to see, but they are my records.. My gt granddad was sent to a lunatic asylum.. he was very ill mental, and dementia and possibly a danger to himself,, who know's what it was but there was mention of Syphilis being caught.. he did have 6 children in his time his younger two who were my granddad and my gt aunt never really knew their dad, he was put in the Asylum just after my granddad tuned 5 and his younest daughter my gt aunt was 2 and he died about being in nearly a year my granddad himself was not even 6.. By this time i really felt for my gt granddad what had he gone through why was he drinking, what caused it but i also felt for his wife, my granddads mum and a single mum to 6 all be it some were older and in their 20's and probably helped to look after her and the babies.. i think she lived into her late 70's early 80s and she died of brittle bones.. and early cancer,, one of the first.. and yes i have records of that too,, So right now i am reflecting a bit,, but i will find the plot to his resting place and go see him like i did his wife and i can lay them to rest and be reunited in my mind they are together again, and my granddad is with me helping me.. i will let you know how i get one..

Saturday, February 2

Emotional Roller Coaster

Well, I know what your thinking with that photo, scary, poor child, why use a photo like that, well if you're still reading i will tell you.. The photo above is mine and my Ex partners oldest son,, he was born in Feb 1995, and will soon be turning 18 years old.. When he was born and a normal birth as far as they go, but won't go into detail, but 3 weeks later we hit a major medical issue.. He was diagnosed with Transposition of the Great Arteries (TGA) with a Ventricular Septum Defect (VSD)..known as TGA with VSD this was not picked up at birth due to the fact it was years ago and very old equipment.. he has a minor op called a balloon Septostomy and at 7.5 weeks ended up having Major Heart Surgery called an Arterial Switch Operation at GOSH and by a very good surgeon,, infact all the team at GOSH were fantastic then and still are.. The photo you see is our child (mine and Ex's) just hours after his operation,, he did very well and was home inside 10 days.. Yes it's very daunting having a child with a scar where he never had one before, or on meds, like how do you old them, bath them, feed them without hurting them ect, but i/we must have coped as parents... in is life my/our son has had few cardiac issues, some minor proceedures since his major op but he has had check-up throughout his life and will do so, as he his now a adult he will be changing hospitals too, but we know where but not sure when, probably next year... My/Our son has suffered some oxygen loss although no medic will say YES they say its possible, but this was pre-op... well as time went by he did as babies did, did as toddlers did but struggled as school, he ended up on a Statement of educational needs from the age of 7 and still has help at college although there no longer on a statement but there is something in place that the college do for him,, he did come out of school with 9 GCSE's at foundation level, he is a salior though does not anymore he passed all levels up to 4, he was able to row until he passed out but was given a change.. you see he had strenth due to the high amounts of oxygen in his blood.. But what he struggles with are, Reading, writing, short term memory, concentration, organisational skills, but he is got better just not what a 18 year old should be, there is also other personal issues not for blogging about so i wont..he also now has High BP, a leaking aortic valve and a murmur he may only have the reading age of a 8-9 year old, it just does not go in, his memory does not help him with reading, his writing is about that of a 6 year old if i am honest... it takes years for his long term memory to kick in.. Also he has had to have 3 years of vision thereapy to help his eyes settle down, and also speech Therapy to help with his words ect I think he had therapy for 7 years in total.. He also have a problem with his boy bits shall we say and need a op he had what is called hypospadius repair for Hypospadius condition But he is very good with his hands Manually, his a whizz at Lego, Knex, he is learning to be a carpenter now too and getting there.he could probably take a tractor appart as well and put it back together He has done very well in his time at all the stuff he can do, he has made me a very proud mum but to think he has gone from that little tiny baby up above to this
Yes he may have been through the mill over the years, but it does not seem to have affected him other than a phobia to buttons.. he is a very quiet laid Chap who is very lovable and caring.. Just amazes me, that a little baby can grow so tall.. He is my world (as is his little brother) and i would not change anything about him either.. Just one very Proud Mum to a very special Son

Monday, November 26

Tweeter/Blogger knowns as Single_Man_75

Not sure if i am doing the right thing here, but i hope so,, just lately my blogs have been about tweeters i have come across on twitter. The person in question is only known to me as Single man 75 he tweets and a fellow blogger to, which i so love to read about... with this is about the anonymous man on twitter, Yes he is single and has been for some time,. despite the poor love being let down by several woman but this blog is not about his dating as he has his own blog for that,, Anyway... Single man is Single man 75 by name for his own reasons which we all respect.. What i have picked up on over the months since following Single man 75 is His a very fit runner, tri althlete, has slight OCD by his own addmission he adores his 2 children and they adore him.. and he is one heck of a great single dad.. There are times when he gets given a hard time for one reason or other, wether its hassle at his works or some nasty comment somewhere, but we all know when his had a good or bad day..
If you do actually read my blog single man 75 yes this blog is about you and what a great person i think you are, and what a great job you are doing with your kids, yes its hard to date when you have children, i know i cant even think about it with a 11 year gap with my kids.. i know we dont tweet one another that much but i felt i should say that i think you a top man, and top dad and actually proud of you and i don't even know you.. But carry on doing what your doing and your children will land on their feet with a very proud dad behind them (and a proud mum also) i know parenting children is between 2 parents whether they're together or Single and I know you are doing the best for you children.. well I best not go on too much but see for youself see his blog here The Life of a Single Man His twitter is Single_Man_75

Oliver King and Sudden Arrhythmic Death Syndrome (SADS)

As You know that i am a user of twitter and from time to time something jumps up at me as important.. or Very important and even I must do that.. Well today that just happened.. I saw a retweet from a follower about @TheOKFoundation so i click on the Avi and see that is a account about a young lad called Oliver King.. and that he had died from a condition called Sudden Arrythmic Death Syndrome or (SADS).. The reason this Jumped up to me is that my own son has a congenital heart defect which is something we have known about for years and he has surgery to correct.. With Poor oliver King (Picture below)
I WAS VERY DIFFERENT he had a healthy heart, no condition at all.. and he died very suddenly at the age of 12 during a swimming lesson at school,, his poor parents must be beside themselves.. But the Parents have sent up a foundation to raise awarenes and set up a petition (part of the wording here We call on the Government to introduce defibrillators to all public buildings by 2017, and provide staff with the appropriate training. We also call on the Government to offer all people aged between 12 & 35 a simple ECG test, which could reduce the current death rate of 12 young people a week.s and set up a petition To me this is a very importing petition to sign and one of the reason I am doing this blog is to hope that you will sign the petition also as it can save lives.. As you know there are many sport personalitys who have suddenly died from the same thing and this would help them also.. and prevent early and unnessary deaths.. This is the Petition The Olive King Foundation e-Petition Please click and sign and pass it on to everyone in your e-mail box, twitter account and facbook also.. Please take a look at their website The Oliver King Foundation You can go and like their Facebook page too The Oliver King Foundation Facebook So get to it readers plese Sign now they need to get to 100,000 but need 75days to get 75,000 signatures to get it into the house of Commons for discussion.. The reason why its so important is that this can happen to anyone...

Tuesday, November 20

Right Said Fred

As you can see from the Title this blog is my personal view of Fred and Richard Fairbrass the two brothers known to many of us as Right Said Fred.. Like many of you who read this blog we first heard of Right Said Fred with I'm Too Sexy back in 1991 when i was 21 great year and great song by 2 very fit men :-) and i was hooked and there were many more Tunes and Albums released.. but whilst i could go on and on about there Musical stuff this is more about the Men i have followed on Twitter for some time now when i was sent a #FF from my Internet DJ friend over at who are great friends so i gave them both a follow.. and No i am not one to beg for any personality to follow back if they do its great if not its there choice.. But on places like twitter you get to know Them, I mean Fred and Richard as normal People and Not Fred and Richard the Stars.. Both Men are very funny with a bit sarcasm thrown in, and i must admit it's Fred who does tweet the most and its anything from his day in the recording studio to his travelling experiences to and fro from his Home in Barcelona to London UK which he does very often so he and Richard can sort all the Recordings out or other interesting fun stuff they do in meetings even write new material.. The Newest will be there online Christmas Animated Single which i am looking forward too. and to see their beloved Mum (She must be one Proud mum, i know i would be if they were my sons) Poor Fred must be shattered..
Now Richard He does seem very different to Fred in the aspects of not getting on well with Technology maybe its a not wanting to or not needing too really but either way it doesn't matter he can and does tweet but Richard is more into Politics or the rights and wrongs of politics to be precise but he is still a very funny man, i would say he was the more serious one of the two but as this is my personal view of both i could have that totally wrong,, so forgive me.. But i am sure both are up for a laugh and a wind up too..and pretty sure both can be big kids too especially in the Studio the place where they are most at ease.. I have also heard Richard on his Live interviews on 2ndcityradio and his such a down to earth person whith a filthy laugh too..
I dont expect you to take my word for it but if you are on Twitter i suggest you go follow @TheFreds and @RFairbrass but also if you go and visit their webpage here you can also see links to the various websites that they are on too.. As far as their Music goes it always has been great, fun, lively and entertaining and will be about for a long time yet.. This is one of my favourites. You're My Mate

Monday, November 19

Just Iwan Thomas MBE

If you are a reader of my Blogg then you will know that I am a user on Twitter @Deb1sassy and for about a year now i have been using twitter on a daily basis, whether its to vent my anger at something, or just tweet constant rubbish, or just banter.. And yes i am an Nosy sod too at times, I follow 888 people and have 979 follow me back, yes i do have some celebs mostly comedians and a few sports personalities esp since the olympic games and I have had one of the rowers follow me back but i dont do it for the follow back but its always nice to be recongised.. I have had Permission to write this so i hope that covers some pics too, if not i am in a heap of shit,, anyway one of the best sports personalities is Iwan Thomas MBE if your my age you will know him for his great tallent for his 400 meters for which is has many medals, or if your young then the BBC ONE SHOW.. I wont write them here as you can see them on various sites but its not about his running career or his TV career its about the Man i see on my twitter timeline..
Now Iwans Twitter is real, it's him, and its his views only but what i will say is he is a really nice guy and funny too.. I came Across Iwans Twitter Account when a ReTweet came on to my Time line with regard to a photo of a very naughty granny and NO i wont find the picture.. and I followed him.. Considering Iwan is 4 years younger than me he is a very fit man and very good looking. And puts me to shame. But he has the ability to make me laugh with his pictures.. he tweets, his day to day life like any one of us and yes its interesting some of this work that he tweets about as well as photos of his day Job.. He has days like the rest of us of being grumpy or in a mood But i think with his followers on twitter we can get him out of it. I have noticed also that his followers love to tweet him pics too some get re tweeted to me and i love the 1% look a likes, which means they look nothing like the person really but even a 1% likeness is funny.. One of these days he may turn of for coffee/tea or a cooked breakfast but his always busy so I doubt it, and sure as heck would surprise me if he did.. I Have just had to come back and edit my blog a tad as a reader has reminded me about something on Iwans cheekyness, he is a great mind of #RubbishJokes thats makes me and the rest of us Laugh, Iwans ability to take #sneaky photos of anything and anyone he comes across, and he has this lovely clothes which most of it he refers to as #Naughtyclobber which is often something tight about his persons but we all love Iwan for him and not because of his Sporting accolaides.. triumphs well if want to see for yourself what a great man he is then you can find him here on his website and on Twitter @Iwanrunner

Thursday, November 15

Back to Hospital

Some of my Readers my know this hospital very well, others my not so well.. for those who do not know, its a very famous children's hospital to where my eldest son has been attending the past 17 years, if you read my blog you will know why,, it not it was because he was born with a Congenital Heart Defect which needed open heart surgery,, and yes for most part he has done very well, his had his problems but his my son and very proud of him too.. a few months back my Charlie had to under go some tests, MRI, EXERCISE TESTS, ECHO, ECG 24 HOUR BP.. all this is in readiness for transfer to Adult Care, a different hospital.. Not sure how i feel about that as GOSH as been our life line for many years, but yes i know his grown up, and probably needs to move away from the babies in the hospital,, I am also very aware that many don't make it to adult care so i feel relieved that his has, but sad that my friends children have not.. But Next Thurs day we go back to GOSH may be for the last time for the outcome of his tests, I do know 2 things, his leaky heart valve has got worse its gone from a mild leak (past 12 years been mild) to a Moderate leak :-( and his Blood Pressure has gone up,, 80% of his BP tests showed higher than normal BP... So as you can tell i am worried, the letter said the heart function was good which is good but i am still WORRIED,, are they going to do anything with regard to BP, the leaky valve i doubt it, but i am still preparing for bad news as i had being hit with bad news... They may move him lock stock and barrel to new Adult care with all his problems and let them deal with it,, But i just don't know and that's taking me away from my comfort zone.. but I will know next week and i will let you know too.. But i am also sad to say bye to a great hospital too, and feel i should take something, as a good bye what what? really it needs to be a donation of some kind.. will have to think of that one